Child Abuse

 Child Abuse by Parents: Any intentional harm or mistreatment to a child of parents, caused by their parents. 


Types: 

  • Sexual Abuse: Causing too early or late sexual development, causing the child to experience more toxic sides.

    • Unwanted kissing or touching.

    • Unwanted rough or violent sexual activity.

    • Rape or attempted rape.

    • Refusing to use condoms or restricting someone’s access to birth control.

    • Keeping someone from protecting themselves from sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

    • Sexual contact with someone who is very drunk, drugged, unconscious or otherwise unable to give a clear and informed “yes” or “no.”

    • Threatening or pressuring someone into unwanted sexual activity.

  • Physical Abuse: Causing physical pain or injury towards a child.

    • Hitting, slapping, punching, kicking

    • Burning

    • Strangulation

    • Damaging personal property

    • Refusing medical care and/or controlling medication

    • Coercing a child into substance abuse

    • Use of weapons

  • Emotional Abuse: Causing mental deterioration or social development. 

    • Constantly criticizing the child 

    • Blaming the child for adult problems

    • Rejecting the child repeatedly

    • Dismissing the child’s feelings

    • Deliberately causing the child emotional pain

    • Ridiculing the child or mocking them

    • Humiliating or publicly shaming the child

    • Talking down to the child

    • Calling the child names

    • Getting angry at the child often

    • Yelling or swearing at the child

    • Threatening to abandon the child

    • Threatening to harm the child or their family members, friends, or pets

    • Intimidating or scaring the child

    • Coercing or manipulating the child

    • Gaslighting the child

    • Frequently harassing or picking on the child

    • Ignoring the child or using silence to control their behavior

    • Withholding love, support, and guidance

    • Neglecting to care for the child and their needs

    • Allowing the child to witness domestic violence and abuse

  • Religious Abuse: Forcing or controlling a child with religion, faith, or beliefs.

    • Used scripture or beliefs to humiliate or embarrass you

    • Coerced you into giving money or other resources that you didn’t want to give

    • Forced you to be intimate or have sex that you didn’t want

    • Made you feel pressured or obligated to do things against your will

    • Shame, make fun of, or ridicule your religious beliefs or practices

    • Prevent you from practicing your religion in the way you would like

    • Use beliefs to manipulate or bully you

    • Demand that your children be raised with/without a certain religion

    • Use religious texts or beliefs to justify other kinds of abuse (physical, sexual, financial, etc.)

  • Neglect: Refusing to provide needs for a child.

    • Physical: parents or caregivers may fail to provide adequate food, clothing, shelter, supervision, and protection from potential harm.

    • Emotional: parents or caregivers may fail to provide affection or love or other kinds of emotional support. Children may be ignored or rejected or prevented from interacting with other children or adults.

    • Medical: parents or caregivers may not obtain appropriate care for the child, such as needed treatment for injuries or physical or mental health disorders. Parents may delay obtaining medical care when the child is ill, putting the child at risk of more severe illness and even death.

    • Educational: Parents or caregivers may not enroll the child in school or may not make sure the child attends school in a conventional setting, such as a public or private school, or in their home.


As a Result: 

  • Emotional Abuse: 

  • Be excessively withdrawn, fearful, or anxious about doing something wrong.

  • Show extremes in behavior (extremely compliant, demanding, passive, aggressive).

  • Not seem to be attached to the parent or caregiver.

  • Act either inappropriately adult (taking care of other children) or inappropriately infantile (thumb-sucking, throwing tantrums)

  • Loss of self-confidence

  • Delayed or inappropriate emotional development

  • Avoidance of certain situations, such as refusing to go to school or ride the bus

  • Appears to desperately seek affection

  • Sleep problems and nightmares

  • An apparent lack of supervision

  • Frequent absences from school

  • Rebellious or defiant behavior

  • Self-harm or attempts at suicide

  • Physical Abuse: 

    • Have frequent injuries or unexplained bruises, welts, or cuts. Their injuries may appear to have a pattern such as marks from a hand or belt.

    • Child is always watchful and “on alert,” as if waiting for something bad to happen.

    • Shy away from touch, flinch at sudden movements, or seem afraid to go home.

    • Wear inappropriate clothing to cover up injuries, such as long-sleeved shirts on hot days.

    • Injuries that don't match the given explanation

    • Injuries that aren't compatible with the child's developmental ability

  • Sexual Abuse: 

    • Sexual behavior or knowledge that's inappropriate for the child's age

    • Pregnancy or a sexually transmitted infection

    • Genital or anal pain, bleeding, or injury

    • Statements by the child that he or she was sexually abused

    • Inappropriate sexual behavior with other children

  • Neglect: 

    • Poor growth

    • Excessive weight with medical complications that are not being adequately addressed

    • Poor personal cleanliness

    • Lack of clothing or supplies to meet physical needs

    • Hoarding or stealing food

    • Poor record of school attendance

    • Lack of appropriate attention for medical, dental or psychological problems or lack of necessary follow-up care



Types of People: 

  • Human Chiefs: People who are very intelligent, strong, perfectionistic, hyper-independent, and ambitious, wanting to get what they want, but actually feel very insecure and unhappy due to parental expectations. 

  • People-Next-Door: People who submit, act too kindly and emotionally, want to fit in with others, and feel shy with others, desperately wanting affection and pleasing others because they feel scared of not making them happy, but never feels too much happiness. 

  • Ironic PollyAnnas: People who appear to be cheerful and having fun with their lives, but feel depressed and suffer a lot from what they are going through. 

  • Sour Bullies: People who bullies or mistreats others through emotional, physical, and sexual means to leave themselves alone, but feels depressed and upset because of their traumas. 

  • Daredevilish Peeps: People who don’t think first before acting or talking and enjoy taking risky behaviors, through sex, drugs, and others, to relieve themselves from their traumas, but never feel happy deep down. 

  • Complex Baddies: People who put off the cruel, arrogant, and pompous side, yet have an inner soft side that they don’t want to admit and stays strong, mature, and super independent, despite the traumas they are going through and vulnerabilities they experience. 

  • Meeks: People who struggle with emotional control, such as anxiety, melancholy, and euphoria, and refuse to participate in activities, such as school, social life, and etc. 

  • Emo Geniuses: People who express their feelings from their traumas through creative works, such as songs, science experiments, artworks, and products. 

  • Intense Takers: People who manage to stay sane, brave, and mature, despite experiencing traumas and abuse throughout their lives. 

  • Traumatic Group: People with mental disorders, such as mood disorders, psychotic disorders, and personality disorders, who deep down refuse to recover because of how much they feel scared. 



What to Do? 

How to Escape From Your Parents: 

  1. Try to make good grades to the opportunities you deserve, such as making it to the Dean’s List. Remember the days in high school where you didn’t have to study and take the senior final exams last year. 

  2. Try to participate in extracurricular and/or take leadership roles. You love being on the top, but it’s up to you! 

  3. Pretend you’re pleasing your parents when you’re with them.

  4. Work hard in the job you’re working in and save money to buy a home and apply and pay for insurances

  5. Don’t listen to your parents when they abuse you, just put all your pair of Airpods on. 

  6. If they physically abuse you, defend yourself and kick them. It’s because they started it first, not you. 

  7. Stand up and let your inner voice come out when your parents hurt you. 

  8. Write a diary about their bad deeds - try your best to make it where to expose them

  9. Be the realest you outside of your parents

  10. It’s okay to hate your parents, but try to honor them or else they’ll smack you for something you didn’t do

  11. Do what you love no matter how much they will take you down 

  12. If your parents hurt or beat you up for not following their expectations, they should be taking all the responsibilities and that’s their fault, not you

  13. If your parents won’t leave you alone, it’s their fault not you

    1. Choice 1: go into your bedroom, lock it, hide, and go to sleep 

    2. Choice 2: go into the car, gather your belongings, including your legal documents secretly, drive swiftly into your friend or relative’s house, disconnect your iPhone from find iPhone, and don’t tell anybody about it

      1. Look for a safe computer at work, the library or a friend’s house where your Internet history can’t be viewed.

      2. Use and make sure you have a code word or signal with family or friends when you need the police.

      3. Review your safe escape plan as often as possible in order to plan the safest way to leave your abuser 

  14. Keep practicing your own religion or beliefs

  15. Bring your siblings with you 

  16. If your parents are hurting or beating you up to where the situation becomes worse

    1. Steps: 

      1. go to Court

      2. bring the evidence

      3. apply for Restraining Order

      4. talk to the judge

      5.  testify against your parents

      6. move yourself out of the house and stay away

    2. If your parents keep hurting you even after the trial, the police can take care of it, not you.

  17. Cut ties with your parents as soon as possible! It would be better not to live with them

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